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What is Vore?

If you, your partner or a friend is into vore, this page will help you understand it and what you can do. 

If you're a voraphile yourself, you're not alone! It's totally okay to love it, and you should accept yourself for being you.

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IMPORTANT NOTE: Giantess Vore (Vorarephilia) is the most common type of vore, and as this site also explains the Giantess (Macrophilia) kink, it's the main example used throughout. There are many types of vore, but this one is the easiest to explain, because people have imagined giants for thousands of years. If your interest is a different type of vore, just picture your own preferred category or gender in place of the examples as you read. This page is designed in a way for people to want to continue reading, and understanding without leaving half way through, with a different and worse off idea of what these kinks actually are otherwise. 

Topics

What triggered the Vore kink in people?

I blame the internet, and 150m tall tomboys!

Voraphiles tend to have a big, elaborate imagination. You'd need one, since it's almost entirely fantasy! This comes from my own experience, from talking with many friends who are into it, and from other people in the community.

The most common story is that it showed up at a very young age, and by accident. Cartoons like Tom & Jerry and movies like Men in Black II have vore scenes that are usually cute and innocent, yet plenty of people have no idea why they found them so fascinating. Others, like me, developed it alongside traumatic experiences, as a way to cope or escape from real life. Even so, when we first came across vore, it felt like it had always just been there.

Another way people find they're into it, is through related kinks like giantess, weight gain, or female empowerment, which often have vore in them in some shape or form. Picture an unstoppable, gigantic Goddess who decides other people's fates. Or a female with powerful abilities like Medusa turning others into stone. 

When it comes to people who found out because one of us told them, reactions vary. I've told quite a few partners and female friends who had never heard of vore or giantess kinks. Unfortunately, not everyone was accepting, but most didn't judge, or mind, and some even fell completely in love with the idea. One of my long time close friend IRL finds it cute and funny, so she teases me whenever we hang out and makes remarks while she's eating. One ex-partner was very into power (and unfortunately abusive) and she loved the humiliating side. 

Another ex-partner saw how loving and cute it could be, imagining her boyfriend as a little pet she could tease and toss around in her mouth for fun, threatening to swallow him if she didn't get enough kisses, getting inside tummy rubs, or just treating him like a snack.

Nobody really knows why people become so interested in vore. My guess is that it's because it's the most extreme form of BDSM you can imagine, or that it can be so cute and empowering, or both. What is clear is that for many voraphiles it isn't a choice, especially if they got into it young, and it can also lead to severe addiction (more on this later). Sometimes even sex isn't as arousing as vore, or as stimulating.

Voraphiles come from every corner of the globe, every ethnicity, and plenty of them are people you'd never expect. It's an uncommon fetish, but not as rare as people think. Google Trends and Pornhub have both repeatedly reported 'vore/giantess' among their highest-rated searches; to the point that even clickbait, scams, and catfishing using these terms has increased heavily. 

There's even an expo called SizeCon held annually in America!

So why's it called Vore? The word vorarephilia comes from the Latin vorare, meaning to swallow or devour, and the Ancient Greek word philia, meaning love.

Why do people like Vore?

Vore doesn't exclusively mean eating smaller people. But it does make them easier to swallow!

There are many reasons someone might be into vore, and it isn't actually just about the idea of eating or being eaten. The best part is often the teasing, arousal, and the anticipation leading up to it!

Most scenarios come in two flavours: willing and unwilling. Prey can be either, while the predator is usually willing, or sometimes completely unaware, depending on the scenario.

Of the most common reasons people find vore arousing, is the BDSM aspect. Some of those common pred / prey themes include:

• Being unstoppable / being completely helpless
• Feeling better than everyone / feeling utterly insignificant
• Controlling other people's lives, even ending them / absolute submission
• Humiliating someone completely / feeling someone's absolute power over you

Another common theme is romance, love, and cuteness:

• Loving someone so much that vore feels like the biggest hug possible: protecting them with your body and surrounding them with warmth and comfort. Similar to how some partners feel there isn't a way they can show just how much they love someone... and end up biting them!
• Picking up a friend and teasingly licking or swallowing them while they can't do anything about it
• Being big enough to be a threat, but choosing not to be one (unless it's to others who would hurt the tiny one)
• Teasing, and showing how much power they have and how easily they could eat you

And some popular scenarios:

• Giantess and shrinking, or same-size vore
• Putting them in sexual places (foreplay but gigantic!)
• Giant-ruled worlds and dystopian settings
• Being trapped in food
• Hotel roleplay and inside-tummy massages
• Chase thrills (cat & mouse, but the mouse knows how this ends!)

The combinations are limitless, because there are so many types of vore and so many kinks that overlap. That's why every voraphile is different. One might like it to end at the swallow. Another wants to go on to digestion. Then another likes digestion but hates any thought of acid or realism. And someone else might just want to stay in the predator who ate them, safe, listening to the gurgles and heartbeat in a warm, comfy, squishy stomach. 

On the other hand, it is very easy to put a voraphile off, maybe they hate the idea of someone getting hurt, realistic acidic digestion, or gore etc). Maybe it's strictly sexual for them so they have a sexual preference of only ever roleplaying with a biological woman, because it's literally making love to them, yet others don't see roleplaying as sex because the only difference is it's not physical.

A bit thing to know, despite it may be surprising. But not everyone finds vore sexual at all. For many it's just an intense interest, like a fandom. For me, it's only sexual with my partner because I'm a one and only type of guy. Being a pet or prey for a giant girlfriend gives me a strong sense of love, teasing, adoration, and I love being her whole world. (Plus you can't go wrong with the views from her cleavage OMG!)

So as you can see, everyone's different, and teasing (or being teased by) a giantess is a very cute thing! It's all fun and games until someone gets eaten. Then it's either lunch or a kinky horror movie, depending on which role you're playing.

Is Vore, Cannibalism?

Even writing this section up made me shudder!

Short answer: No! Heck no! *Shudders*. 

The thought makes nearly every voraphile squirm. Cannibalism means real people, real harm, and gore, which is the complete opposite of what draws people to vore. Most voraphiles don't want to hurt anyone or even anything in real life, even the ones who love the power side of BDSM.

"But vore involves eating someone, doesn't it?" In a fantasy, yes. Here's why it's still a different thing entirely:

• It's fantasy, not reality. Nobody is actually being eaten, and everyone involved knows it. It's like loving horror movies without wanting to be a killer. Fiction lets people enjoy intense ideas safely.
• It's usually gentle. Most often the prey is swallowed whole and alive ("soft vore"), with no chewing, gore, or pain. If that sounds familiar, it should: Little Red Riding Hood, Pinocchio, and Jonah all got swallowed whole and came out fine. Nobody calls Pinocchio's dad a victim of cannibalism. He just had a rough day at sea.
• It's about size and power, not meat. The appeal is the huge difference in size and power: teasing, closeness, being protected, or being at someone's mercy. Cannibalism is about eating human flesh as food. Vore doesn't need food, or even people at all. Some fantasies use creatures or furry characters, and some involve same-sized people.
• It doesn't even have to be about the mouth. Nearly every orifice has its own subcategory of vore, which shows how much it's about imagination rather than eating.

Even the more intense sub types of vore are different. Some fans enjoy digestion, being absorbed, or even "hard vore" (which includes chewing). So yes, the fantasy involves being eaten, and yes, that overlaps with cannibalism. But the appeal was never the meat. Nobody is craving a meal, they're craving what comes with it: closeness, power, and surrender. It's the plot device, not the point!

And it's still just a fantasy. Someone who enjoys a story about being devoured is no more a cannibal than someone who loves murder mysteries is a murderer. Imagining something and wanting it in real life are two different things, and voraphiles know exactly which is which. If liking horror made you a monster, half the planet would be on a watchlist. 

Is Unwilling Vore, Sexual Violence?

Consent to Unconsent

Unwilling Vore Is NOT Sexual Violence.

"Unwilling vore" means the character being swallowed doesn't want to be. It's fair to ask whether that makes it sexual violence, since someone is being overpowered and the fantasy is sometimes sexual. But once you look at what sexual violence actually is, you can't really compare them at all.

1. There's no real victim. What makes sexual violence wrong is a real person being harmed and having their choice taken from them. A drawing, story, animation, or game has no one in it who can be harmed. A fictional character has no body, no feelings, and no choice to take away. If showing something were the same as doing it, every crime novel, war film, shooting video game, and horror movie would count as the crime it depicts.

2. The enjoyment is in the role, not in real suffering. Voraphiles usually picture themselves in the scene, as the prey, the predator, or the observer, depending on their preference. It's the same pull that makes people watch horror films, ride rollercoasters, or play the monster in a video game: the thrill of an intense situation, experienced from somewhere safe.

3. Fantasy isn't the same as the act, and vore has no real-world act to translate in to. Sure, dark fantasies are common. Plenty of people imagine being overpowered, taking control, or even violence, and yet most never want any of it to actually happen. What would be a real concern is someone fantasizing about harming a real person in a way that can actually be done. Vore can't do that. Swallowing someone whole and alive is physically impossible, so there's no real person this fantasy is aimed at and nothing it can turn into. It stays in imagination, video games, movies, drawings, stories etc.

Why the comparison is unfair.

Treating fantasy like real harm gets it backwards. Real violence has a real victim. Nobody calls a horror movie a crime, even though people get chased, caught, and eaten in them all the time. Nobody shuts down a monster movie because Godzilla stepped on a city, or bans a cartoon because a cat swallowed a mouse. Yet when the same kind of story is made for adults who chose to watch it, it gets treated like a crime, especially by morale persecution by payment processors even when it isn't entirely sexual at all for every body. 

And honestly, if eating food made someone a criminal, every giantess would be in court right now, trying to justify her lunch.

If your Partner is into Vore

Always give your partner a reason to want to be with you, and never wanting to look at anyone else ever

These topics are written primarily in a way for non-voraphiles, and those who's partner are trying to help explain vore to them. 

It is highly recommended that you read the first 3 topics from the top of this page before continuing.

Hopefully you found this page before the rest of the internet. A big reason why I built this site is that I lost my fiancée because it didn't exist. I told her what it was and explained a bit. But she wanted to be more loving, looked up vore to try find out what she could do for me, and ran into the worst of what's out there (thanks Google). It traumatised her, she couldn't unsee it, and she saw me differently. Unfortunately there is a lot of extreme, really weird, bad stuff, and stupid horny comments out there. A lot of what's online doesn't represent the vast majority of voraphiles. That's also why so many avoid interaction in the community altogether, feeling ashamed to even be associated with one another because of so many loud, stupid, and horny people there are. I don't want anyone else to go through what I did.

If you're open-minded and want to show love by giving it a go, awesome! Because this can bring you closer to your partner than ever! However, if you want your partner to give vore up, or you want no part in it. Then this article can still try help you with that. 

While it's completely fine to not like vore as it's a weird concept to most people. You do need to be aware that the moment your partner feels judged, it will most likely hurt your relationship. If you are finding out about it now through them, you will need to understand they've just told you their deepest, darkest, (and likely embarrassing) secret that most take to the grave. And it wasn't easy as they know they risk losing you by doing so. Your partner is in one of their most vulnerable spots right now, and what you say and do will affect them for the rest of their life. Imagine for a moment you're trying to tell someone you'd love to be tiny and eaten by them, or to swallow them, or stick them somewhere kinky. It's embarrassing, terrifying, and it can become a deep shame, and a big regret for them for the rest of their life depending on how you react to it. 

So first off, is that you need to understand that it's not a 'phase' and it doesn't simply 'go away' even if you've accepted them. Many voraphiles got into it very young and it wasn't by choice. They probably knew about it before even knowing what sex was. To put it into perspective, if you were to ask them to give it up, it's literally like them asking you to give up sex entirely and never be turned on by it or anything else. And there are some (like me), where vore has become part of their sexual identity because regular sex isn't, or can't do for them what vore roleplay does as it's just not as stimulating. I know, that sounds bad if that's the case! But it isn't by our choice, and it's got nothing to do with you, or being your fault in any way! Most voraphiles are just as happy with sex alongside vore so don't feel disheartened just yet! For some, gigantic mountains for tits that you can lay on is just too kinky! 

If vore for your partner is on par with, or is better than sex to them, you're probably going to feel really unloved or as if you're not good enough for them especially in the bedroom; that doesn't mean you don't turn them on at all, or as if you're not attractive to them! In reality it's actually the opposite. They told you because they love you and they don't want to hide anything from you. Imagine for a moment you're trying to tell someone you'd love to be tiny and eaten by them, or to swallow them, or stick them somewhere kinky. It's embarrassing, terrifying, and it can and will become a deep shame, and big regret to them for the rest of their life depending on how their partner reacts to it. A good friend of mine waited 7 years of marriage to tell his wife. She'd always sensed something, and when he finally told her, she said, "Is that all?" They ended up even closer!

So if it doesn't bother you, and it doesn't completely gross you out or trigger PTSD, why not try it for a while? Let them explain to you what they like, and why. And you may discover a new side of love with someone who is finally comfortable being themselves and really wants to be with you. If you have a secret kink of your own, tell them too! Love works both ways! 

Start small. If your partner prefers being prey and you're the predator, tease them with names like "snack," "little man/woman," or "tiny one." Biting their ear or licking them randomly does wonders. Affection and teasing go a very long way, because they make your partner finally feel they're accepted for who they are. You should also expect them to return that love in ways you enjoy. Ask your partner what they're into and why, because this page alone may give you the wrong idea about what your partner actually likes. So find out soon.

But if you're not into vore, don't want to be, and don't want them to be either. That's completely understandable, it's not for everyone. 

However, you must be careful about how you convey this to them. If you do it badly or without care, it will just hurt your relationship badly, leave them feeling absolutely worthless, and that they're not remotely even accepted for who they are. A similar scenario like an LGBT+ person who doesn't get the love or support they had hoped for from family or friends after telling them. Your partner is just as scared of losing you and being judged for something they know isn't the norm. Trying to make them quit and give it up cold turkey won't work either. 

You should treat it as something to work through together if it truly bothers you, and keep telling each other what's working and what isn't. 

The best relationships are those built on shared experiences through difficult times. Where partners still court each other every day. Because that means they're thinking and caring about what the other is feeling always. So keep things between you balanced. Relationships improve when you work things out together. 

But if you feel the kink is taking over like an addiction, you need to tell them it's a bit too much before it becomes too late. A common mistake is that once a voraphile feels they're accepted, they can get into a 'honeymoon' phase and start to go overboard, or assume that your acceptance means you like it as much as they do. It can become overwhelming if suddenly their whole persona changes and everything is suddenly turned into vore or giantess related talk that you may not like. They may not realize that they're doing this at all!

If you are not completely into or seeing the appeal of vore. You should set your boundaries, and make sure they do what you enjoy too. If you want them to try stop it completely, some people can step back from it, but in my experience and what I've heard from others. It's unfortunately always there, burning away at them. I've tried to give it up many times, and so have many others. But it always comes back and makes you feel ashamed that it does. If you're completely against it and unwilling to even listen to your partner, it may be worth thinking about what that means for your relationship. Because that's not growth, it's throwing your partner under the bus after they've given themselves to you at their most vulnerable.

If vore isn't for you, make it clear you're fine with who they are, and that it's just not something you feel comfortable to do. You've already done a lot to make them feel accepted, so be honest instead of forcing yourself. They need to know you're not pretending to accept them either. Otherwise down the track, the relationship will show cracks.

Roleplay and Real Life

She drops that pen an awful lot around him. Teasing someone with their kink can be a lot of fun!

So if the kink is pure fantasy, how do you actually roleplay or tease your partner?

There are quite a few ways! First, just like with sex, let your partner explain what they like and why (if they didn't already tell you, slap them and make them!) A few subcategories can be unsettling if you don't understand the appeal, and you don't have to do everything they like to have a loving relationship. You've already shown you're willing to try, and that matters a lot. But be careful with the wrong details, too. Things like talking about death by digestion to someone who only wants to be surrounded by you, or to protect you, can put them off fast. They never wanted to imagine you getting hurt!

Start small. Teasing is key to everything, and it's much easier over text. If they prefer being prey and you're the predator, try:

• Biting their ear or licking their cheek, and whispering that they're delicious
• Letting them watch you eat up close, mouth wide open
• Burping in their face, or pretending you ate someone and asking if they're jealous
• Telling them they'd look good on your thighs or chest
• Letting them lie on your tummy and listen to it
• Teasing them about how nicely they'd go down with dinner
• If they're into the darker grosser side: Tease them about coming out with dinner! 
• If they're into macrophilia (giants), you can text and act like a giant or a tiny person. You can even use a small toy to stand in for you or them. Model railway figures are cheap online. Even those little VR controllable drones or cars give an awesome perspective!

It might feel strange at first, but if it doesn't bother you, give it a go. You might even enjoy the empowerment or the submission. You'll be surprised how easy, and how much any of these little things can do for a voraphile. And you should expect them to share the love back in a way you enjoy, tease someone enough and they usually will anyway! If they prefer being the predator, ask what they'd like. Some people like their partner curled up in a ball under their shirt for the feeling of a full belly. Every voraphile is different!

Roleplaying: One of the best ways is through text or messaging apps. Building a story together, or acting out predator and prey. A classic is a giantess destroying a city, or a game of hide and seek where one person knows they'll get eaten if found. Roleplay can feel daunting, even for people who've done it countless times, but it gets easy once it starts, and there's no right or wrong way to do it. Your partner can help with examples if you've never done anything like it or Dungeons & Dragons before. Think of it as a new game!

Games: There are a few good video games too, some multiplayer, though piracy has put off a lot of developers, so there aren't many. One I recommend is ResizeMe, which is free and has a VR version.

Focus on teasing: Voraphiles love the build-up and anticipation. Skipping straight to the end of nomnomnom, done, is just incredibly dull if it's supposed to be longer roleplay. When in doubt, ask your partner.

And if you found this article wanting to show love or find out what you can do for your partner, they're very lucky to have you. Rub that in and remind them always! 

Important Warning: The First Two Weeks

If you're the first person your partner has ever told, or the first to accept them, expect them to be very lovey-dovey, and be aware they can get carried away without realizing it. They may start assuming you're into vore already, or forget that you aren't fully into it at all. 

The first two weeks are a good time to see whether it grows on you or not, and it can feel daunting, or make you feel that you or sex aren't enough for them compared to vore. If it does make you feel that way, tell them. Like a honeymoon period, it should settle down.

The reason they may get carried away or seem obsesssed is because they've finally felt accepted by someone outside the kink. They've kept this secret their entire life with no one to share it with, and most have beaten themselves up over it, tried to quit, and never figured out why they like something so strange to everyone else. That's a lot to release at once.

So tell them if it's too much, or if you want them to stop. Even if vore isn't for you, you can still have a happy relationship. Just know it can build resentment over time if they're never allowed to scratch the itch. If you're the type of partner who doesn't mind them looking at porn or vore in the first place. It can be another outlet, as long as they know you still accept them and don't resent them for something usually outside their control. And relationships go both ways. If you're doing lots of vore-related things for them, they should be doing plenty of what you love, too!

If your Partner is addicted to Vore

Sometimes she'll just eat the elephant in the room instead

If you feel your partner is overly obsessed with vore, or even addicted to it, and you don't think it's just the honeymoon period after you accepted them for who they are, then hopefully this section will help.

First, don't confuse addiction with seeking attention. If your partner needs a vore "fix" and you've accepted them and tried it, they may simply be hinting that they need it right now, or that they feel you don't actually accept them anymore. If you don't want to continue vore with them, it's important that you tell them. Explain it in a way that makes clear you still completely accept them for who they are, but vore just isn't for you. Vore isn't for everybody, and that's okay.

If you're sure it's a real addiction (like sex or drugs) and not the situation above, you'll need to tell them, and help them realize it, in plain words, explaining that it's affecting the relationship. Be truthful about how you feel, but remember that most voraphiles have been into it since a very young age. There's no easy way to say it, but it helps a lot to give examples: like how much they've been going on about it, how much content they've been looking at, or how they haven't been as loving in the ways you like.

Tell them they're overdoing it. Another good way is to say it's scaring you, or starting to put you off. They should understand and try to take a step back, but they'll need your support to feel you've still accepted them. Remind them that you're still with them, and that you were long before vore came into the relationship. Saying it in the right way is usually all it takes to for it to click. For example with me, it wasn't until an girlfriend at the time told me that vore was basically my porn. I never saw it that way (and I bet many voraphiles still don't), and it didn't click until she said it that plainly. So if you're not fine with your partner watching porn, or they're not fine with you watching it, make sure they realize the same goes for vore content too.

Help them cut back. If they understand, ask if there's anything you can do to help curb it. They might ask for some teasing every so often to slowly wean themselves off, if you're comfortable with that. Or you might be fine with them looking at vore content when you're not around, as a quick fix. If you want them to stop completely, you'll need to help by giving them something else whenever the urge hits, such as kissing or hugging them to distract them and bring their focus back to you. As with any addiction ( like smoking), anything that takes their mind off it helps a lot over time. There's also a section later on this page for voraphiles later, that may help them too.

Finally, like any good relationship, a good partner will put you before themselves, and not just say "I can't". If they're unwilling or unable to change, try getting them to think about the end result. If they ignore you, or don't do anything about the addiction, what could happen? And would it be worth it? It is also worth finding out if they may be in depression, as vore can be a way a lot of us use to cope with bad times and memories. Because if it is depression, that is usually the actual cause of the addiction.

I'm a Voraphile, should I be ashamed?

Telling her to make you a sandwich while she's bigger, isn't the best idea!

If you're a voraphile, and you haven't already, read the first three general topics at the top of this page first. 

This area tries to cover every type of voraphile generically, so a non-voraphile may easily misunderstand it. 

So, should you feel ashamed of being a voraphile? Almost every single one of us has asked ourselves that question many times, and beaten ourselves up over it. The answer for the 'vast majority of us' is: No! You shouldn't feel ashamed at all! 

Still, feeling ashamed is natural, and every voraphile and macrophile has felt it at some point. It's a strange kink that isn't the norm, and it can involve dark themes. After all, wanting to be eaten, or to swallow someone, isn't something most people ever think about!

But if you think about it, why should it make you ashamed? I'm serious! The world is becoming more inclusive of people of all shapes, sizes, sexual orientations, and concepts. And your happiness and health are among the most important things in your life. You can't look after yourself (or your partner) if you're feeling low or beating yourself up over something only you know. So why should you care about anyone else thinks, for something that makes you happy and doesn't hurt or use anyone? Nobody's opinion should matter when it comes down to what you innocently like, especially if it's in your own time and mind. Well... except if you're against pineapple on pizza, because then I'll be I'm sorry but I'm going to have to judge you!

So what should you feel? Should you even try to give it up? Nope! Accept it as part of who you are, and stop using it as something to beat yourself up with. We've all been there. I've done it many times, and so has practically every voraphile; it's one thing we all have in common. We know how it feels to be alone, especially when nobody around you is into it, or even knowing what vore or macrophilia is. Yes, It feels like a massive burden because you can't tell anyone, yet you wish you could, and to find someone, anyone, who would accept you as you are. Religion, morality, mental health struggles, being LGBT+, or worrying about family and friends finding out can weigh on you even more.

So what's the best thing to do if you feel ashamed? Work on accepting yourself, because beating yourself up won't help you or anyone else. What makes you happy isn't up to anyone else, and it shouldn't be. No-one has the right to make you feel unhappy, except yourself. And you don't exist to be miserable. As long as your kinks don't hurt or use anyone IRL, why should it matter?

"But I still feel like a weirdo..." And that's alright! It can take a while to accept that it's just part of you, and it's completely okay to be into vore. Feeling like something's wrong with you doesn't mean you have a mental disorder or anything. Sure it does feel taboo, especially when you imagine how the average person might see it. But a lot of people you'd never expect are into macrophilia and vorarephilia, and it's more common than you'd think. And even then, most don't see it as a big issue, or are just not judgmental at all about it. They might even have a kink that they feel the same way about!

People of all nationalities and professions are into these kinks: teachers, doctors, office workers, cosplayers, game developers, and more. I've known people in all of those jobs, either in person or online. There are even expos for us like SizeCon where you can meet like-minded people! Everyone has different interests and kinks, and some of us even find ours more arousing than sex. But not snuggles. NOTHING beats snuggles! Not even being swallowed whole! (...okay, maybe it's a tie.)

At the end of the day, we're just ordinary people, and it's pure fantasy! One of my friends beats herself up because she feels horrible that she sometimes wants to gobble up tiny people. Yet she'd never do it in real life! ...I hope... Erm, actually, I should probably start being a better friend to her, just to be safe. But seriously, she's one of the kindest, strongest-willed people I know, and she loves helping others. And quite honestly, being 'normal' is just boring.

For a lot of the non-majority however, the answer is actually: Yes, they should be damned ashamed.

Who should be ashamed then?

Forcing or trying to elicit a roleplay response is sexual harassment

As mentioned in the previous section, there are voraphiles who should be damn well ashamed. It needs to be said, because it seriously affects others, how we look, and is extremely cringe. 

Whoa! why so harsh, and who should be ashamed? Anyone who does sexual harassment, peer pressure, rape threats, death threats and the like. All of these literally happen daily in our community. Sometimes it's obvious when someone's doing it, other times not as the person may be thinking they're just trying to be cute and harmless, especially if they're younger. But trash people will always find an excuse to try justify doing the wrong things that they want. People in the kink, do not automatically want to 'share thoughts' nor are they automatically horny at anything and everything. It isn't even sexual for so many people.

If you think I'm exaggerating, or that it's really not as bad as I make it, or it's just innocent banter. Take a look at some of the images below. They were given to me by friends and other women to use as examples of the amount of abuse women in our community get daily.

Click to view an image - Content Warning: Contains multiple rape/death threats, abuse, cringe etc towards women

This is less than a quarter of the amount of sexual harassment/abusive screenshots that was given to me to use

"Whoa... That is... Just... An insane amount of abuse and harassment..." Unfortunately yes, but it's better that you now have a vague idea of how bad it really is. So aside from what I've just shown you, what else should people be ashamed of or watch out for?

Braindead Comments: Outside our community, we're judged and persecuted because of a few idiots who make the rest of us look bad, and who make us deeply ashamed to even be in the same community. Vore and giantess kinks have a terrible name because of people who post brain-dead comments like "eat me" or "crush me" on non-fetish material. It's happened so much that people generally know what both are and they're not talked about in a good light, especially on gaming communities where vore is usually used as a meme. That makes it even harder to explain to someone else who may have heard about it in a bad way.

'Innocent' Sexual Requests: Others in our community, trick people into posting innocent-looking material. One example is getting teenage girls to answer "What would you do if I were shrunk to the size of an action figure?" on social media sites. It sounds innocent or fun to anyone outside these kinks, but to the people asking, it's essentially porn. No different from the fake surveys and forced roleplay shown in the example harassment images. I've even lost hired artists and voice actresses after people stalked them, stupidly convinced they were into the kinks themselves.

Fake People: There are also the people in our community (especially women), who get targeted by countless people pretending to be friendly. Sooner or later the conversation turns sexual, and they try to force roleplay into it. This just screws over everyone else who is genuinely trying to make good friends. Everyone just doesn't trust one another (rightfully so), they see how others are treated, and feel ashamed to be here at all. We have enough cat-fishers who try to find out who you are IRL and blackmail you for money.

Trust is a major issue online and in the community already. Another big problem is that while there are some who love to pretend and appear online and roleplay as a giantess despite not being female IRL (there's no issue with that, everyone has their thing!) However, a lot aren't forthcoming with it, think it shouldn't matter to the other, or know that someone won't roleplay with another member of the same/or non-preferred gender. It is so hypocritical and stupid if someone wants you to respect their sexual preference, while not respecting yours. Roleplay to a lot of people is literally making love with someone else, just because it's not physical sex doesn't mean it isn't the same to many, especially if vore is better than sex for them. If you are someone who doesn't see roleplay as making love that way, at least have the decency to respect someone else who does, and not try trick them just to get your fap in. In the end it only makes everyone else paranoid, think there are far less women in our community than there actually is, and it gives an extremely bad rep for anyone else who is LGBT+, they are treated and seen unfairly enough in the world as is through no fault of their own.

The bottom line is: If you force your kink on someone, you're just an asshole, and you need to get your addiction and obsession under control. So if you do any of the above, can't control yourself, or trick people into giving you fap content, you should damn well be ashamed. Do something about it, like seeing a therapist, because you honestly need it. Sexually harassing someone is never okay, and it makes the rest of us look bad when it hits the news. 

However if you have done it before (a lot of have without thinking or knowing especially while younger), realized it was wrong, and regret it, that's different. The reason being is because now you know and understand the difference, unlike the people who don't care or lack empathy because they need their two-second fap. So if you can, try make it up to the person you did it to in some way (if they know/realized they were being used for your kink, it would be better to leave them alone than traumatise them again), and try help others understand that it's really not okay. It takes a lot to admit you were wrong instead of following the crowd. Everyone makes mistakes, but what matters is what you choose to do about it now. We live, we learn. You can choose to wake up on the right side of the bed every day, or the wrong side.

And lastly if you read up to here and you're not like any of the above, or using other people for your own selfish sexual gratification, you have absolutely no reason to be ashamed of your kink! 

Should you tell anyone you're into Vore?

Once you tell someone, there's no going back

The answer varies from person to person. My personal opinion is no and I know others who will say yes.

The reason I say no, is because only your partner or a therapist ever really needs to know. Family and most friends have no need to, and it's worth thinking about what you'd actually get out of it. Telling them achieves very little beyond a bit of acceptance, and only if that goes well. 

In return you risk losing friends or family, because not everyone thinks the way you do (like "if they love me, they'll understand"). 

It also helps to remember what you're actually telling them: vore is generally something sexual, in a way they won't understand at all, and sex is usually private for people. Sex talk is already taboo. My opinion comes from a lot of experience: what's happened when I have, having been over 20 years in the community, seeing what's happened to others, and hearing what friends have been through.

It's completely understandable to have an overwhelming urge to tell anyone and everyone. It's a secret that has eaten away at you your whole life, and finding acceptance means the world. You could compare it to someone LGBT+ who has hidden their sexuality for years and felt they had no support. It can be maddening not to tell anyone in real life because you're terrified of how you'll be seen. But once it's out there, there's no going back.

What about a therapist?

Personally, I've never seen a therapist or felt the need to tell anyone about vore except partners and close female friends that I trust. But I have friends around the world who have, and who discussed both giantess and vore kinks. Some felt it really helped, and others not so much. From what I've heard, therapists don't need to be into vore to understand it, and these kinks are generally treated much like other sexual behaviours other people struggle with. Therapists are there to help with your feelings, not to judge you. If you're really struggling, try reaching out to one and see how it goes.

What about friends and family?

Of my various friends and partners I've told. Generally half took it fine and even joke and tease me about it now. The other half, including people I'd known for a decade with vivid imaginations, took it badly, and we no longer talk. Worse, I became a talking point for them with others, and it snowballed from there on who else knew. From what other friends have told me, and what I've seen from people sharing their experiences online, it's similar. Those who say yes do tell someone, were lucky enough to have had all their friends supportive and teasing them about it in a way they like. Others, have been disowned by their family entirely, often because it conflicted with their religion. And even one religious family I've heard about, when they found out that family member had created content and shared online. Went on a rampage for years taking down everything and anything related to the username they used. Checking multiple times weekly. And unfortunately the last I had heard about him, was that they could not bear to live anymore from what kept happening as others kept uploading that content, which ended up getting attacked each time by his family and being told to be ashamed about it. In my experience, when a woman opens up about it, it's generally seen as a positive thing and accepted. When a man does... well... not so much. It sucks, I know. But you are talking about your sexuality, and that isn't something just anyone wants to hear about. 

What about your partner?

By all means, if you are very close with then tell your partner, because it's something very sexual and they're the person it affects most. You don't have to, but from my experience, and from others who have told their partners, it has worked out really well. Keep in mind however that only you know your partner, though, not me. A loving partner should support you in life while you support them, and sex is always better with someone you truly love. It can be really hard to tell them, especially if you've been together for years, because you love them so much and don't want them to think you're "weird", or risk losing them. But hiding it can be harder for some.

If you do want to tell them, here's a good way how:

1. Explain it fully, and start slow. Begin with the smaller, cuter side, especially if you're into more intense versions of vore, so you don't scare them or give them the wrong image. Then see how they take it, whether they don't mind or even like it, and carry on from there.
2. Tell them not to search for it online. Be the one to explain it, because there's a very high chance you'll regret it if they find it on their own. There are a lot of images and comments out there that will paint a completely different picture of you.
3. Read this page together. The resources here can help them understand, but be there with them when they read it. Even if they find this site first, if they don't fully know what you're into and why, it can be misread, and that can be worse than telling them in the first place.

I know this firsthand from experience unfortunately. I lost my fiancée of 4 years because I had told her I was into it, but never fully explained nor what I was in to as much. I never assumed she wouldn't want to understand it better, but she was a very loving person and wanted to do more for me... and she Googled vore and everything went to hell for me from what she saw. The sole reason I'm even active in the community, why I built this site, and why I'm trying to help make a better community, is so nobody else has to go through the agony I still feel today.

I know some people will disagree with my opinion about only telling a partner or therapist. Some have had very positive experiences telling friends who became supportive. But it's important to remember the nature of the topic, and that there's always a risk you'll end up with memories you'll regret badly. If you're comfortable telling friends you're sure will be supportive, then by all means go for it. Not everyone wants a partner or has someone else to talk to about it, after all!

If Vore is more of a turn on than Sex for you

If Vore turns you on more than sex, you're far from alone

A poll on Aryion.com (one of the biggest and oldest voraphile sites) asked over 1,600 users whether vore turned them on more than sex. For nearly half of them, these kinks were just as sexual as sex itself, or even more. Especially for the women who answered.

So why do so many people find it that arousing? It could come from years of viewing vore content (like porn), or from feeling that sex isn't as interesting, intense, or in-depth as vore can be. After all, vividly imagining yourself inside a giant stomach or vagina is pretty intense! On top of that, some people just don't enjoy sex that much to begin with.

I'm affected by this myself. Friends used to think I was gay because I never perved at anybody and never bothered dating (I'm a one and only kind of guy, and tomboy gamers weren't as common back then). I was even told off for looking at motorcycles the way I "should" be looking at women. One of my previous partners I met online in my very early 20's, accepted vore and would also roleplay a lot for me in it. But when we finally got together IRL, it turned out she was a huge sex addict, and we didn't last very long. She treated vore as a "phase" and thought she could turn me "normal" again. And sex just doesn't do for me what snuggles, affection and vore does. 

If you also find vore more exciting than sex, be aware that it can (and often will) make your partner feel lesser, unworthy, and unloved, especially if you've told them about vore. They may notice that you want vore all the time, and not understand the obsession. If you don't enjoy sex, or they feel they can't seem to arouse or finish you off, it can really hurt them. Your relationship needs shared loving experiences and memories, and that includes sexual ones. Some couples can have a sexless relationship yes, but not everyone can. It's important to know your partner's needs and address them too, because a relationship is hard to keep going without compromise from both sides. If they have a kink they like, doing that for them can help a lot too.

Relationships work both ways. Love your partner for who they are, and not only for the sexual side of things. Court them every day, and give them reasons to want to be with you, not reasons to pull away or look at someone else.

I wish I had a partner into Vore!

Voraphiles are not as rare you think. And a lot of non-voraphile partners do get into it too!

Ha! Who wouldn't? But there's a problem that most people don't see: the community looks like it's nearly all male, as though hardly any women are into vore or macrophilia. If you're a straight guy, that obviously makes finding a partner who shares your kink seem close to impossible. 

A lot of guys also pretend or roleplay as female OCs or giantesses, which doesn't help the picture or inspire much trust (not kink shaming!). But in reality, there are quite a lot of women in these kinks. While males do make up the majority of voraphiles and macrophiles (especially as prey), women mostly stay hidden. The reason being the insane amount of messages, sexual harassment, threats, and abuse they get (see 'Who should be ashamed then?'). In the end they just never interact with anyone and only seek out the content they're after, which is usually niche, or not super sexual. 

If you don't believe that, think of it this way: Imagine getting dozens of messages every single day that treat you like a sex object, assume you want sex, force roleplay in the guise of being cute, and don't understand that you just want to be yourself and have no interest in gratifying anyone else with your kink (besides a partner). So why would you ever want to talk to anybody? People get these messages just for having a female username or picture, without ever having spoken. Female empowerment happens on that woman's terms, not anyone elses or them telling them 'what they should be in to or feel'. And only an idiot would say "well, you can just block them." No. Nobody should have to put up with it in the first place, least of all when it's targeted, constant, and daily.

On top of that, vore is very private for a lot of people in the community (I'm one of them), and they only ever would want to talk about it or share it with a partner. These kinks are extremely personal, so we generally don't want to share our thoughts about them, especially with someone who isn't our preferred gender. It's no different from sex for us, and it's an intimate, loving thing to share only with a partner or close friend. That also makes the community look even smaller than it is too.

Why trying to find a partner in the community is usually a bad plan.

Many of us would love to meet other kinksters, but trying to find one in real life to fall in love with (and grow old together with) usually isn't a good option. A relationship shouldn't be built on sexual intent, even if that kink is the only thing that turns you on. A good relationship should be built on why you love your partner, and on courting them every single day so they know they're loved, wanted and cared for.

It's certainly possible to make friends online, and have it turn into a relationship and meet. But there's still a big chance it won't work out, because it's usually so hard to pull off. People live in different countries or states, and when they finally meet, it often falls apart because the relationship was mostly just sexual in the first place. It isn't safe to trust everyone you meet online either. There are a ton of cat-fishers, scammers, and blackmailers lurking around in our community. Unfortunately they are very common, and hard to detect; unless someone who was targeted by one warns the rest of the server.

But don't worry, it's not all doom and gloom!

The best way to find a partner who's into your kinks, is to not actually look for one who is. Find a partner who loves you for you, in person. When you're comfortable and think they have a bit of imagination, explain what vore or macrophilia is. Use this page and its resources, which were made to help them understand more easily while you sit there red-faced next to them!

I say this is the best way because people into macrophilia and vore aren't as rare as you'd think. I've been around the community a long time, and I've seen plenty of people tell their non-voraphile partners and friends and heard how it went (and a lot of people have told me they have after the first time I created these articles in 2022!). A lot of them have said their partners were very accepting, and some even ended up loving it too. If your relationship is special, a partner will generally try to please you with your kink even when it isn't theirs. I know it's daunting, even terrifying, but I think it's well worth telling your partner about it if you feel your relationship is good, and your partner is very loving or open minded. Sometimes they even have a kink they were afraid to tell you about, and that works out even better for you both! Maybe they're into feet, and that fetish ties easily into macrophilia, especially if they love domination. And if it ties into macrophilia, it can tie into voraphilia too.

Finding the right person

It's not easy to find a partner, especially if you beat yourself up for your kink or find it hard to socialize. But in truth, you find the right partner when you're not even looking for them, most easily in places where you share interests or hobbies. My ex-fiancée (who is still my best friend) is a good example. I met her on the RuneScape forums of all places, back in 2013, and it turned out she lived only 25 minutes away. We were close because we understood each other and shared so much in common (including social anxiety T_T), and we even think alike. She found it hot that a guy could beat her at video games, and I found it hot that she'd always joke back and try to win when I was trying to make her giggle. To me It's so damn boring having a partner who just laughs or says "lol" and doesn't try to make it a game or make you laugh back. I wouldn't of met her if I was looking in the kink community with what happens in there for sure. Trust me, you'll find the right partner when you're not looking for them. But you do have to make an effort to be out there!

Don't ever give up hope. If you doubt yourself or put yourself down a lot, we've all been there, and we still do it at times. But if you don't want to give someone a reason to want to be with you, to love you for who you are, and you don't even try to make an effort, then it will stay that way, because your life is how you make it. So stand up straight, find acceptance, and acknowledge your own accomplishments! If you feel others have more to offer than you do, and that others wouldn't want to be with you because of it. Then remember you're not the only one thinking that! Your future partner may be too! You don't have to like everything about someone to want them, and that goes for you too!

Addiction and trying to quit the kink

Unfortunately, vore can become a crippling addiction, much like sex or porn. Left untreated, it can consume you and make life hell, especially if you still beat yourself up for liking the kink. Any addiction is hard to admit to, but admitting it is the first step to doing something about it. Lots of voraphiles and macrophiles struggle with this, which isn't surprising when most of us got into it at a young age.

If you have a partner, it's especially important to acknowledge it if you think you're addicted, because it will affect your relationship. They can start to feel they're not good enough if you're looking at vore instead of responding to their advances or body. For most of us, vore media is essentially porn, so if your partner isn't okay with you looking at porn, they won't be okay with you looking at vore. They also won't be okay with you asking or hinting for it constantly.

Another sign is feeling very lonely and constantly messaging random people, trying to get forced roleplay or sexual responses out of them. If that's you, you're probably addicted and need to do something about it. Other people shouldn't have to suffer for your habits.

Don't try to quit instantly

Like with any addiction, quitting completely and instantly usually backfires. You're likely to get withdrawal and go straight back to it, reaching for every little bit of comfort you can find. It's also hard to quit because the kink gave your mind a reward for thinking about it, so it became subconscious and habitual (especially if you used it to get you through hard times most of your life). With the right resources and planning, you can recover. If you have a therapist, they can help with this too as it can be seen a porn addiction to them. I am not a therapist, but these steps have helped me and others before, especially worth a try if you don't want to see a therapist, but want help to stop.

Step 1: Admit you have a problem

Come to terms with the fact that you have an addiction, which can also help you realize how bad it has become. One way to do this is to write about it: how often you think about the kink or look it up, how long the obsession has gone on, how you feel about it, how your partner feels, and so on. Writing or saying things out loud sinks in more than just thinking them, it may sound silly to do, but it really does work! It can change your mindset subconsciously and make it easier to overcome. Think about the end result if you carry on, and what you stand to lose. We're human, and nearly everyone makes excuses to make something wrong feel right, or to avoid feeling bad about it at all. When you're overcoming an addiction, guilt and justification usually get in the way, which is why it helps to write it all out and lay it on the table.

Step 2: Slowly redirect your mind

Distract your mind, slowly but surely, from anything related to the kink. If it pops into your head and you have a partner, go and kiss or cuddle them instead. If you don't have a partner, find something you can turn into a habit, like twirling a pen, using a fidget spinner, or playing a quick video game match. If that doesn't work, force yourself to do something mundane, like washing the dishes or cleaning the house. The key is to stop your mind thinking entirely on the kink, and slowly ween it off with those habits and distractions. You should also get rid of anything that makes you think about it. So yep, sorry, but you'll need to delete or lock away on an external hard drive that special little folder you hide from everybody else (yes that folder, you know the one). Because knowing it exists, will just keep pulling you back to it if it's within easy access. Be aware, too, that medications can affect your mood, for example if you're taking something for depression.

Handling stress and setbacks

You'll get stressed, and it's normal to turn back to the addiction for relief. But if you keep distracting your mind, or find another way to relieve the stress, you'll overcome it in time. Being affectionate with a partner is one way, and it will lift them up too, even if they wonder why you're suddenly so loving. If you're depressed and lonely, try an activity that gives you some touch, like a Thai massage or a cuddle therapist (they exist!). Other things that have the potential to help, such as I've tried hypnosis for my social anxiety before. And as long as you go in with an open mind, I found it really helpful, and it lifted my mood a lot.. Old work colleagues also told me their partners tried everything to quit addictions like smoking and drinking, and they even managed to stop on the spot because the hypnotherapist was really good.

If your partner told you that you're obsessed

You might not have realized it. Perhaps you've been pushy about getting vore roleplay from them, which is why they're letting you know. Be straight up honest with them and ask for their help. They can give you something else to focus on whenever you feel the urge for kink material, like kissing or hugging you so you can focus on them instead.

Remember, lots of us have had this become an addiction at some point. We know it's hard, but we've all come through it, and you can too!

Thanks for reading, and I hope this website helps you in some way!

On an ending note...

This page was designed with a lot of things in mind. First and foremost, it is meant to show up as one of the friendliest and most helpful pages on Giantess and Vore kinks online; while not being overly or strictly technical. One thing about our community is that while most people are highly intelligent, smart, and logical. A lot of people unfortunately also lack emotional and social skills because they are too logical or technical. For instance a lot of the feedback I originally received for this page completely overlooked what this page was made for and why. People were just more upset their favourite type of vore wasn't mentioned, and that giantess vore was the example. But here's the thing. You can't just throw concepts that non-voraphiles or newcomers won't understand, or who may think of it as too weird or gross to them. This is why Giantess Vore was chosen as the main example for this page, so people would keep reading and not instantly leave halfway with the completely wrong idea about everything. You as the reader, are supposed to explain it to your partner, about what you like in it, or just replace the example used with your own preferred sub type of vore etc. Someone reading about something such as unbirth or full tour etc, can and most likely will leave with the wrong impression in mind.

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I know there will be a few voraphiles who disagree with me on what's on this page, especially on small technicalities. But you need to remember that every single Voraphile is different. There is no catch-all article available, and this page is aimed at the vast majority while also including as many others as possible. A lot of us were into this kink before we even knew what sex was. And I bet there will most likely be under age people skipping the R18 warning (like we did), so it's important to educate them too, because who else will?

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For the above reasons. Everything was made in mind with the core focus to help the younger generation, non-voraphiles, and partners understand Voraphilia better for what it actually is, in a better light, and in a way that's easy to understand. That is why there are some light hearted jokes included, some personal experiences to share, and a few things omitted. In our day, we didn't have anyone or anything to help us understand, let alone comfort us. Unfortunately all we really had are overly sexualized things, cringe comments, trolls, etc who do not represent how the vast majority of the community is or feels. We're just normal people at the end of the day, with a bit of a twist in what we love.

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If you think I've missed something important, or have something that would be good to add from a social point of view, and not technical. Or you have something that may help make our community better. Then feel free to message me on Twitter, Discord, Patreon, Giantess City, or Aryion. I really hope the info on this page helps a lot of people, especially in being able to accept themselves for who they are.

Because your kink is not a bad thing!

But unfortunately being tiny is!